Motherhood is amazing but being a mother is the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and new challenges arise every day as your little one hits new milestones. Here is just a little advice and things I’ve learned along the way.
Trust your Mommy Instinct. It really is a thing.
Ask for help when you need it. It’s impossible to do it all, all of the time.
Pamper yourself. Get a pedicure or just give yourself one during nap time.
Put a little make up on. It distracts from the spit up in your hair.
Baby wear! Sometimes it’s the only way to get a meal on the table. When that doesn’t work, a PB&J will suffice!
Get out of your pajamas. Even if it just means changing into yoga pants or work out clothes when you have no plans of going to the gym. Mom duties are a workout in themselves, and workout clothes are a mom’s uniform.
Get outside! Go for a walk. Sit outside with the baby and have your coffee or lunch. The fresh air will do you good.
Don’t worry too much about the housework and laundry. It will be there. You can always buy more underwear if you run out.
Walk through Homegoods, even if you don’t need anything. It’s nice to see another adult face and think about how you’ll decorate your house once your little ones won’t knock over that pretty lamp and you’re not spending all of your money on diapers.
Dry shampoo is your best friend. Use it.
Get Amazon Prime! There’s no reason to make the journey out of the house with the baby just for diapers when they can arrive at your house in two days. You can shop right on your couch in your pajamas, with a much needed glass of wine.
Lysol around the house and a little bleach in the shower goes a long way for that “fake-just-cleaned” aroma. Works every.damn.time.
Make enough dinner for two nights, or at least lunch. Left overs are your friend.
Breastfeeding is hard, but after the first 2 weeks there is a light at the end of Lanolin Tunnel. If you don’t beast feed, babies turn out just fine on formula! You have to do what’s best for you both!
Enjoy a glass of good wine. I am a firm believer that wine is an essential parenting tool.
Don’t compare yourself or your baby to others. Every momma and every baby will hit milestones at different times. Not every mom is back to their pre-pregnancy weight when they leave the hospital. Those people are annoying anyway.
Find a local Facebook Mom group. Advice from other moms is better than Google. You can find answers to questions from “Is this normal?!” to “Who’s the best pediatrician in our area?”
Try to make a little bit of time for your partner. It can be hard and at the end of the day, you’re exhausted, but remember that you are a team and you need each other.
Tell your husband EXACTLY what you need from him. They need direction and you need your sanity. Somehow, they never seem to see that the trash needs to be taken out.
Give yourself some grace. Babies don’t come with an instruction manual. We are all just doing the best that we can.
Co-sleep, let them use a pacifier, rock them to sleep. Whatever sleep tactics work for you, do it. I promise, they I’ll outgrow it before college. And momma needs some sleep!
Don’t worry too much about the advice your mother-in-law aw gives you. You have to deal with her offspring every day, and I’m sure there could be some improvements.
Don’t worry too much about the advice anyone gives you, for that matter. They mean well (usually). As long as your baby is warm, fed, and loved, you’re doing it right.
And just remember – the days are long but the years are short. Enjoy these precious moments with your little one, and know that the hard times don’t last forever!